Being depressed does not mean that you’re sad

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Often times when people say that “they are depressed”, they are actually trying to say that they are sad. Sadness is an emotional state, while depression is a mental state, and the two don’t always exist at the same time.

Like most people, I have been sad in my life. Sadness is usually caused by something, such as an event that happens. It could be something that someone says to you that hurts your feelings. Maybe your girlfriend broke up with you, or your cat died. It’s often easy to say what caused the sadness. “I am sad because of [reason]”.

Depression on the other hand, can be much more tricky to figure out. It’s not as easy to say “I am depressed because of this thing that happened to me”. Depression is not an emotion, so it’s not caused by how we feel, or what’s going on around us. Depression is a mental illness, and it’s definitely not the same thing as just being “sad”.

Unless you have lived with depression, making a clear distinction between sadness and depression might seem silly. To those of us who do live with depression, it can make all the difference in the world.

I can wake up depressed without being sad. It will be hard to get up out of bed, hard to want to function and go about my day, and hard to enjoy the things happening around me. But, I’m not sad. Lately, my life has been pretty good in a lot of ways, and I feel rather happy most of the time. Happiness doesn’t cancel out depression though. It’s not unusual for me to have a smile on my face or to be laughing while feeling depressed.

For me, understanding the difference was key to my self awareness and capacity to enjoy life. At first, when I felt depressed I tried to understand why I was sad, and I couldn’t figure out what was making me sad. I would try and find reasons that could fit, and sometimes I would even make myself believe that something that I didn’t think had bothered my, was in fact making me sad.

This was a complicated way of looking at my life, and it made it hard to understand my own mental state and emotions.

Now that I realize what depression actually is, and I can admit that I have to live with it, I’ve been able to start learning how to cope with it. I don’t need to try and make myself happy, or try and shut out the feeling, I can just try to learn how to get on with my life and enjoy every moment as much as I can.

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Fixed it! Now there’s no more confusion.

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No. When you are in a marriage sex is owed to both parties by both parties. Jesus Christ

Go into your corner and think about what you have said!

Oh… I read that wrong. I thought you said and to Jesus Christ

I thought you wanted people to have sex with Jesus Christ

No one is owed sex and everyone already understands that. Most people just WANT sex. Who the fuck is this chart for?

amazingatheist:

theanticlimactic:

theanticlimactic:

theanticlimactic:

secularmac:

socialjusticeprincesses:

applejack-loves-batman:

Fixed it! Now there’s no more confusion.

can we reblog this one now?

~ Mulan

No. When you are in a marriage sex is owed to both parties by both parties. Jesus Christ

Go into your corner and think about what you have said!

Oh… I read that wrong. I thought you said and to Jesus Christ

I thought you wanted people to have sex with Jesus Christ

No one is owed sex and everyone already understands that. Most people just WANT sex. Who the fuck is this chart for?

eerieearthling:

This particular moment in Star Trek is actually quite important. A lot of people don’t realise that understanding something is not the same as approving of something. This particular episode (A Taste of Armageddon) had a civilization where war was fought on computers instead of on the battlefield and instead of people dying in combat they would send the calculated amount of “casualities” into a camp to die. Kirk is outraged completely by this and rightly should be, but Spock is not so overtly disapproving. He understands why they might think their solution is better for their civilization and takes the time to think about why they are doing it. Even though he can understand why, he still believes it is wrong for them to be doing it. 

There is a separation between understanding something and  approving of something that a lot of people seem to miss. 

(via amazingatheist)

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Message from Congresswoman Chellie Pingree

Dear Joshua,

 

Thank you for being in touch with me about reforming the tax code. I appreciate hearing your thoughts about this important issue.

 

As you know, taxes are one of the main revenue sources for the government and help provide for many critical services. Decisions about what should be included in the tax code are ultimately questions about priorities. I strongly believe that our priority should be to create a fair tax code that supports hard-working Americans, many of whom are struggling to make ends meet or have lost their jobs in the worst recession of our lifetimes.

 

One of the biggest portions of our current federal debt came from the income tax cut for the wealthiest Americans that President George W. Bush signed into law early in his first term. After an extension in 2010, these cuts were set to expire at the end of 2012. I strongly oppose giving massive income tax breaks to millionaires and was glad to end the cuts for the wealthiest in H.R. 8, the fiscal cliff package at the end of the 112th Congress. These cuts did not provide the country with needed economic stimulus or job creation, and they effectively amounted to government aid to millionaires at a time when we are cutting spending on education and infrastructure.

 

I also oppose a number of loopholes in the tax code for investments that allow millionaires and billionaires to effectively pay tax rates of around 15 percent, much lower than the average worker, and was encouraged to see this rate changed to 20 percent in H.R. 8. Private investment is an important aspect of economic growth and should be encouraged. But the fact is that no American millionaire earned his or her wealth all by him or herself. They benefited from public education, or public infrastructure, or publicly funded research—sometimes all three—and those same programs continue to face steep budget cuts.

 

Additionally, I strongly favor closing wasteful corporate tax loopholes and subsidies, including giving money to large oil companies who are making billions of dollars a year in profits. This is why in the 112th Congress I was a cosponsor of the End Big Oil Tax Subsidies Act. We need to end wasteful and duplicative tax subsidies for the ethanol industry. 

 

We need to close the loopholes that allow companies to ship their profits and jobs overseas and that allow large corporations, like American Electric Power, Boeing, Dupont, General Electric, and Verizon Communications, who make billions of dollars in profits each year but pay little or no taxes. With an army of lobbyists, accountants, and tax attorneys, these companies spend millions of dollars to save billions by creating legal tax structures that benefit only those with the money to take advantage of them. In fact, according to public data analyzed in a report by the non-profit, non-partisan Public Campaign, from 2008 to 2010 those same five companies paid more to lobbyists than they did in taxes. Closing loopholes and evasive tax shelters should be another priority in any tax reform effort.

 

Finally, we need to make sure that we administer the tax code in a fair and even-handed way. In 2011, I joined several of my colleagues in urging the IRS to develop tax forms that are friendly and easy to use for Maine’s seniors. I have also helped numerous Mainers navigate the IRS tax code and fought with the IRS to make sure Mainers receive the refunds they deserve and are treated respectfully and fairly in IRS enforcement proceedings.

 

Thank you again for contacting me about taxes. Please rest assured that I will continue to advocate for these priorities as my colleagues and I consider reforming the tax code. I hope to see you in Maine soon.

 

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